The Inner Chemistry of Contenment: Guide to being truly happy


 

Nowadays, human nature is such that many of us remain half satisfied and half dissatisfied. This constant 50–50% discontent quietly reduces our happiness. Getting upset has become so common that when two people meet, they often ask each other, “So, are you happy?”

In this simple question, we are really trying to understand: Is the other person tense with me or tense in general? If he or she is tense, then surely there has been some loss in their happiness. That is why, nowadays, it has almost become a ritual to ask, “So, are you happy?”

Often, the other person replies, “Yes, I’m okayish.” That small “-ish” at the end of “okay” actually means: “Yes, dear, I’m not exactly happy, but I’m not upset with anyone, so I’m managing.” See how important it has become just to remain “okay” or “all mood set” rather than genuinely happy!

Signs of Discontent

Through daily life examples, we can easily recognize the signs of discontent. Some of them are:

    • An upset or unstable mood
    • Frustration and irritation
    • Lack of courage or confidence
    • Quick anger
    • No zeal or enthusiasm for anything
    • Constant complaining
    • Expressing anger in words or behaviour
    • Feeling tired or drained all the time
    • Lack of effort
    • Procrastination and delay

All of these are clear signals that a person is not content inside.

A discontented person repeatedly says, “What should I do? How should I do it?” Instead of spreading peace, they create a wave of unhappiness in their surroundings—and they themselves do not remain happy.

Rather than choosing happiness, such a person stays confused and keeps repeating: “What should I do? How should I do it? The situation is like this, the circumstances are like that, the people around me are of such a nature…”

How Discontent Weakens Us


 

Once a person becomes discontented with their situations and even with their near and dear ones, they get trapped in their own thoughts and endless options. Instead of doing something with the resources and strengths they already have, they keep expressing their inability and again and again say, “What should I do? How should I do it?”

It becomes clear that they are always upset. The few resources that are available, and the ways in which the situation is actually favourable, they fail to use effectively.

They:

    • Treat small difficulties and minor limitations as very big
    • Consider little bondages as huge chains
    • See very big achievements or valuable resources as small or useless
    • Count their blessings and goodness very little
    • Exaggerate weaknesses and obstacles

Then, instead of acting, they simply “sleep over” their problems.

This is why it is said: “There is abundance and success in the hands of the contented.”

 

A contented person has the special quality of treating even a small achievement as something big and valuable. On the other hand, there is no abundance or success in the hands of the discontented. Without a happy nature and divine virtues, they are unable to increase their fortune.

Even if a contented person has only one thing, their words and behaviour make it feel as if they have a million. This inspires courage in those around them and motivates others to start working positively.

A discontented person, even if they have a million, speaks in such a way that it seems they are penniless and stuck in a major problem. In this way:

    • The contented person makes a difficult situation feel light.
    • The discontented person makes a simple situation seem difficult.
The Crown-Jewel Virtue: Contentment


 

So, we are inspired never to give up this crown-jewel virtue of contentment. No matter what the situation is, no matter with whom we have to spend our time, we can choose our response.


 

Getting angry, throwing tantrums, becoming frustrated, irritated, and negative—these are all “low-value behaviours” that only steal our peace.

A discontented person wastes precious time in:

    • Complaining about others
    • Criticizing and blaming

All of this gradually empties our inner battery and distances us from our own happiness. 



 

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